“Joy is a flower that blooms when you do” – Author Unknown
The start of the new decade has not been as positive for some as they would have hoped. At the end of 2019 I remember speaking to so many people that were gearing up with New Year’s resolutions to make 2020 the year that changes their life.
From weight loss goals, to new careers and changes in jobs, to just increasing the happiness in their lives, the goals were both big and small. But now that we are over a month into 2020 many people, haven’t had the start to the New Year, and new decade, they had hoped for.
As someone that has struggled to find that elusive feeling of happiness in the past, I know all too well the journey it takes to find it. For many years I suffered from depression and found it extremely difficult to find even the simplest things in life joyful. This was despite having a lovely life with 2 gorgeous children and a successful career.
Happiness is not dependent on external sources. You can have everything in the world and still feel unhappy. Sure, what is going on in life can definitely impact your happiness, but true, empowered happiness comes from within. It starts with how you see the world.
One of my favourite quotes, that literally changed my life, is by Dr Wayne Dyer –
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
When I say happiness starts from within, it’s all about how you view the world, through your own individual lens that influences your emotions.
So, what is happiness? Happiness is essentially how good you feel about your life. That can include how satisfied you feel with your job, your friends and your family. It can include how grateful you are for what you do have, rather than focusing on what you don’t have. It is also influenced by your ability to change the way you look at the things that you don’t have or the events that don’t go your way.
Everyone deserves happiness and it’s within us all to reconnect with it. Here are my six “KEYS” to reconnecting with happiness in your life:
Do you believe you deserve happiness? Do you need to forgive yourself for something that happened in the past in order to believe you deserve happiness?
Are you able to be truly honest with who you are? Are you able to be truly honest with your part in the way your life currently is?
Can you take responsibility for how your life is? Can you take responsibility for making changes?
Are you willing to take the physical action you need, to help you find happiness? Are you willing to take action on the previous 3 KEYS?
Keep going! If happiness has eluded you for a long time, it will take time to find it again. And for some, it may take continual reminders and action. Consistency ensures that you can reconnect with your happiness when it seems to dissipate.
Being able to find gratitude for the blessings in your life today and every day, changes the wiring in your brain over time. And the more grateful you become the more you will find in your life to be grateful for. And gratitude leads to happiness.
My wish for you is that you all lead an amazingly happy life and remember that HAPPINESS starts with a SMILE and EMPOWERMENT starts with the CHOICE!
About The Author
Carolyn King is the owner and founder of Empowered Happiness and has helped thousands release negative emotions and trauma assisting them to transition to a more fulfilled and happy life. She uses a multi-disciplinary approach which includes kinesiology, mBit and Mindfulness coaching, tapping, NLP, Reiki, creativity, oracle cards and meditation. She is a Kinesiologist, mBit / Life / Mindfulness Coach, Reiki Master, Master Lightworker Practitioner, Meditation Facilitator and Angel Intuitive.
She is also a corporate speaker, editor of a local magazine and international author of Empowered Happiness, Discovering Bliss Beyond Depression and has co-authored many other books.
“Happiness Starts with a Smile and Empowerment Starts with a Choice.”