Following 20 years of personal development I’ve come to understand that who we are on the inside – our repetitive thought patterns, how we consistently feel, what we believe to be true about life and our behavioural choices – is a direct reflection of what shows up in our outer world. In other words, life is an inside job! By that I mean changing your experience of life needs to come from within.
A new job, relationship, environment or way of eating may provide temporary relief, but eventually the unwanted scenarios and circumstances that you are trying to avoid will reappear. Lasting, positive change will only occur by doing inner work.
This work centres around mindfulness practices, emotional release techniques, belief change processes, healthy lifestyle choices and taking actions that are in alignment with who you are at your very core.
These methodologies are best integrated during periods of self-isolation, and this current lockdown restrictions provides the perfect opportunity.
Below are a few ideas to get you started:
Quieten Your Mind
The first and most difficult step is to quieten your mind. Journaling, heart-focused breathing, yoga, walking, periods of silence and listening to classical music are effective practices for creating inner calm and reducing the volume of metal chatter.
Harness Your Mind
Focusing your attention on what you wish to manifest, create or experience (rather than what you don’t want) will help interrupt negative thought patterns. Writing a creative narrative about the life you desire and filling your environment with imagery that symbolises and communicates your aspirations are effective methods for harnessing your mind in positive and productive ways.
The tool I’ve found most powerful (and fun) for visually and emotionally capturing my dream future is Mind Movies software. The act of making a movie helps to clarify your intentions and convey this powerful message to the universe. Watching your movie helps to consistently and reproducibly evoke the desired thoughts and feelings that match the vision of your ideal future. Daily viewing keeps your movie at the forefront of your mind, assisting you to stay inspired and motivated to live your vision.
Practise Emotional Self- Management
How you predominately feel on a day-to-day level influences what you experience in your outer world. What you read, watch or listen to affects your mood and how you think. So do the people you associate with, the environments you live and work in, the places you frequent, the activities you partake in and the objects around you.
If you are serious about taking command of your thoughts, I recommend you become conscious of the media you consume and people you surround yourself with. I also suggest doing a complete audit of your life, and then eliminate the things you don’t enjoy and minimise time spent with people who don’t make you feel good about yourself. Give away or donate any items that harbour bad memories, and be conscious of the clothes you wear, the food you eat and how your treat your body.
Embracing the things you love is important for consistently feeling emotionally buoyant. When you regularly lose yourself in fun activities that genuinely bring you joy, make you laugh, lift your spirits and give you immense pleasure, you set in motion a cascade of neurological, emotional and physiological responses that collectively reshape your outer world to reflect your inner experience.
While incorporating the things you are passionate helps to create a healthy work-life balance, it’s only through discovering and embodying your life’s calling that you will experience genuine fulfilment. This ‘calling’ is a combination of your unique skills, talents, qualities and life experiences that allow you to serve others in a way that only you can. It is this act of serving others that gives your life meaning. The Workbook, Find Your Purpose, Change Your Life: A guide to uncovering your life’s calling to create a joyous, fulfilling and meaningful life, will walk you through the process of finding your purpose step by step.
Create New Beliefs
From the time we are conceived we begin to create a story about life, based on our early childhood experiences and learned behaviours passed down from our forebears and caregivers. This story influences what we believe to be true — about ourselves and what’s possible — and shapes our reality, both positively and negatively. I learnt that if you change the story your experience of life also changes.
Editing your story involves reprogramming your subconscious beliefs. Modalities for doing so include Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), Kinesiology, Theta Healing, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Tapping. I personally use and recommend a cutting-edge belief change process known as PSYCH-K®. It is simple to use and highly effective for identifying self-limiting beliefs and transforming them into beliefs that support you. Most importantly it’s fast. Using PSYCH-K®, belief change facilitation takes only a few minutes, and it helps to reduce unwanted stress and allows you to respond to life’s challenges in a more balanced way.
What tools or practices have you found effective for interrupting negative thought patterns, elevating your emotional baseline and reprogramming self-limiting beliefs?
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